It’s a day before the day I should have started my new venture towards a much bolder and confident self of me, I sit and browse through the net, like I usually do, thinking of the same thought, for around 1..2.. .. 31... 78… 99th time in my life on ‘Why I am not able to make it?” at least this time. Well, people ask me how I know so many stuffs and make me feel like I am really capable of doing something great. But this tiny brain of mine is just curious to get lost in the endless tunnel of links that pulls u deep down like Alice in Wonderland. And there will be this freaking ‘Thani Oruvan’ kind of sequence where I discover the connection between the first link and the one I am seeing then. (Ohhh!! How my mind wished for the Kathi Jail Scene BGM to play then...). In that plethora of links I surfed through yesterday, a stand up comedy video on Marital Rape by Daniel and a poem ‘If I should have a daughter' by Sarah Kay made a Super Nova impact on me. These are some random debris of thoughts caused by the after-effects of the impact.
I had thought and wrote many times about how women should be and how we should achieve greatness and fight conformity. But whenever I put up this statement, the immediate response even from my close friends would be a sarcastic nod and a bunch of reasons on why one cannot. Not until recently I understood why it is so difficult to do what you want to do as a woman. You might have ambitious dreams to silly wishes. But most women lack the perfect ingredients to cook a delicious success in their life. It’s simply because there is no/very less driving force inside us. Isn’t it obvious that a baby bird habituated in a forest would eventually fly one day as it has all the sky to explore and inspiring birds around it to do so? But a baby bird, which is in a small sophisticated house, with no necessary need to fly and gets everything it wants, merely staying in the same place has a high chance to end up with a satisfied mindset. Its purpose is live to eat and any other activity is considered wrong and out of ordinary by the environment. Now, if this small bird starts flying and enjoys the heights and finds a different reason for living, that’s what a real triumph is.
Even when surrounded with an environment that teaches and bombards with ideals of how a woman should be at every age of her life, an environment that is less comfort and more of distress, an environment that keeps pulling her down, an environment that barks at her with all possible ifs and buts, an environment that least cares to give an arm when fallen down, I believe there is no assurance or inspiration from anywhere in the world around her, she pulls herself up and runs further towards a goal that hardly anyone cares. She is the woman who runs her own race and is absolutely free. She is the woman who is self-inspired and is inspiring. She is the woman who doesn’t settle for what is given. She is the woman who dares to break the silence and shows aggression.
The descriptions of ideal women created down the ages are nothing but echoes of ideas propagated by men. Either there are brutal men who behave like an insane animal or compassionate and egoistic men who treat women like a property to be taken care of. (Yes you heard that... We are neither your car nor your puppy. We are a human being like you. With flesh,mind, brain and feelings...). And we women accepted them without a question. Still I don’t believe in women trying to act like men to feel strong and confident. Wearing clothes like men and smoking like men will never make you strong. That is like a guy trying to have curly hair to become or feel like Sachin Tendulkar. Yes, its that lame!
You as yourself are beautiful and confident like any other human being. There is no need to change oneself and fight a war that never ends. So when there is naturally a driving force inside you and you strive to achieve something in your life, go for it. You don’t need others to touch your ego, push you to achieve, make you feel incapable.
Inspire yourself and inspire others!!
